Tips for resolving couple conflicts

Conflict is an inherent part of every human relationship. 

No one escapes it, so in itself it should not be a problem in a good relationship , much less a threat. Things begin to get complicated when the state of conflict cannot be overcome and this becomes the core of the relationship. 

In such cases, the relationship itself becomes contentious, which could put the couple in danger of breaking up .

The key is to make an effort to take care of the relationship and of each other, not to be picky about details and not to be obsessed with being right, or looking for reproaches that can cause injuries. Developing skills to resolve couple conflicts can help find satisfactory solutions for both of you.

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Below we give you very useful tips for you to apply if your relationship has entered a conflict zone.

Tips to follow if your partner has entered into conflict

• Do not resort to threats: in the presence of fear , it is very easy to threaten our partner with separation in order to feel that we are in control. This attitude will only cause the other party to draw its defensive weapons as well and the conflict will become much more serious.
• Advice: What we recommend you to do is appeal to negotiation, to the generation of new agreements and to project a future in which both can continue hand in hand. You can be sure that your strength will show off much more and will be notoriously more effective if you use it to plan a future of harmony and happiness than if you use it to try to solve the conflict by instilling fear in your partner.
• That your calm is inversely proportional to the altered state of your partner: there are times when our partner begins to get out of control as the discussion progresses. It is a natural tendency to try, even unconsciously, to imitate their behavior. Given this situation, the most feasible is that what began as a serious conversation, went to the discussion level to end in a fight.
• Tip: Knowing this, the wisest thing to do is to lower your tone and energy as your partner’s increase. That day they probably won’t solve anything anyway, but they will be leaving the door open to continue at another time before things reach a point of no return.
• Don’t rush: we come with the habit that at work solutions must be for yesterday, to which we add the immediacy to which technology enables us in the field of communication. The result is wanting to fix everything now.
• Advice: However, not every moment is ideal to start a conversation in which we are risking the future of the couple. Therefore, we should not be afraid to postpone that crucial moment for when the mood of both is set on the conflict and that we know that we will not be interrupted.
• Take a step back and ask for forgiveness: it is not surprising that things have reached a dangerous point, almost of no return, for the simple fact of not having known how to apologize. Sometimes pride forms a shell around us and makes us believe that we are right. In this way, we convince ourselves that everything we have done is correct and we try to tell ourselves that it is our partner who is wrong. However, we are not free from having made a mistake.
• Advice: The first step to solve it is to recognize it, the second is to encourage ourselves to ask for forgiveness. It will do us a lot of good and, of course, it will give the couple a second chance.
• Do not judge: your partner has needs, expectations, fears and desires. If you want to continue being part of his life, it is essential that you empathize with the person you love. This means not judging her or ironizing about what she expects, but showing our degree of understanding about it. Assuming you understand their position, you’ll be able to get closer and set the mood to start a conversation.
• Say what you expect, be specific: When it comes time to express what you want from the relationship and from the other person, avoiding falling into generalities will save you a lot of the way. Express, without irony or sarcasm, what you expect the other person to do so that together you can reach a certain result.

Basis of a good relationship

Getting into a conflict is much easier than getting out of it . The different perspectives we have of the world make a friction become a breach if we do not know how to tolerate and empathize with the other. The good news is that we can get out of this situation by using the qualities of interpersonal relationship that we have shared with you. Try them, the results will not wait.