Hardballing, A New Trend In Teenagers #Hardballing #Teenagers
Have you heard of hardballing? If you like to meet people through dating apps, but you are tired of being disappointed, this information interests you.
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This phenomenon is already unquestionable and the pandemic has only consolidated this trend. These days, the first step to hooking up with someone is often sitting behind a screen . Before, there was no choice but to appear face to face, which for most meant building up courage before taking the step. Now it is possible to meet as many new people as you have time and arrange an appointment with unusual ease.
The screens clearly disinhibit. The initial feeling of anonymity, not having to look each other in the eye or live a live and direct rejection has only added more followers to this new way of flirting. However, the human being needs physical contact.
“Tinder plays an important role in the lives of Spaniards. In fact, 50% of the participants in a study carried out between March and April 2021 stated that they use this application on a daily basis. Of them, 20% even several times a day”.
-Rosa Fernandez-
What is hardballing?
After two years in which basically all the possibility of meeting people was reduced to the online world, hardballing was born, promoted by generation Z or zillenials (born in the late 90s) in the US.
Hardballing is based on the idea of being honest and clear about what we expect and seek in a relationship . In addition, he proposes that this practice be carried out from the first dates or even before meeting.
Although it is not all rosy, and it is as easy for people to appear in your life as it is for you to stop knowing about them from one day to the next. Definitely, flirting is still complicated. Many of those who have gone through the ordeal of dating through dating apps know it well.
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It would certainly make life easier for many and they would feel more relaxed if they could learn more about the type of relationship the other person is looking for, even before dating them.
In fact, one of the most unpleasant experiences that has become very common among users is the famous ghosting . This technique consists of ending an affective relationship by cutting off all contact with the person in question, and without giving any explanation. This avoids confrontation and having to give explanations. But it is not the only one, breadcrumbing is also the order of the day.
In dating apps , usually the time span from when you contact someone you like until you meet in person is very short. Often it is even done impulsively, as if it were just another product for immediate consumption. Gone is the time that was dedicated to flirting and seduction.
Lakshmi Rengarajan points out something very interesting about the design of dating apps ,
“Dating apps are designed around how we shop, not how we connect.”
Perhaps this is the reason why this trend of hardballing is triumphing , which promotes greater transparency and increases the user’s sense of control, instead of going so blindly.
How can you be a hardballer?
If you are looking for a partner, you can be a hardballer by making it clear in your profile what you are looking for , whether it is something sporadic or if you would like to have a stable relationship, honesty is what prevails.
If you find it awkward to be so direct from the start, think about how much time and awkwardness you could save yourself by being consistent with your message . After all, it is nothing more than a minimal initial clarification to avoid misunderstandings.
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The person who does not connect with your message or backs down is not what you are looking for, so why spend more time and worry about it.
Hardballing is a very useful method to avoid being disappointed or disappointed so easily . Although, let’s not lose sight of the fact that no matter how much we clarify our intentions in advance, they can change from one moment to another. Raise your hand to the one who hasn’t happened…
At the end of the day, even if we go with very clear ideas, the emotions that a person provokes in us is something that we cannot control. So in addition to honesty, you always have to keep in mind a bit of flexibility when it comes to flirting.
Perhaps the most interesting thing about this whole hardballing movement , and what it comes to point out between the lines, is the importance of emotional responsibility when looking for a partner and avoiding some gratuitous collateral damage.